The pain paradox
Why do most people struggle while some succeed with ease
Life is unfair.
Some people succeed easily while most of us struggle.
That’s what I used to think.
And so I struggled.
Until I decided to change the way I was thinking.
And that’s when things started to work for me.
Take my paid newsletter for example.
I’ve grew it to 6k subscribers and $5k/month consistent revenue in less than an year, working just 2 hour per day.
Easy?
Not at all.
But did it happen?
Very much YES!
How?
I just simply refused to stop at the roadblocks.
For me they don’t exist.
Because my thinking was already shifted:
from “This is not working” - what most people think
to “I have to find the way it works” - I was confident there is one
I call it the pain paradox: people make taboos out of what they can’t easily achieve, but so desperately desire.
And suddenly not having something becomes the norm.
That’s the thing about social pressure, it’s a hell of a drug.
Most people crave acceptance more than money.
So they copy opinions they don’t even believe in.
Take money for example - just because it’s tough to make a lot of money, people who do are perceived as some evil creatures.
“Having a lot of money is a bad thing” often means “I have no clue how to make them”.
“I hate AI” often means “I’m scared I’ll fall behind the AI hype.”
“I’m not selling in my writing” means “I need money, but I’m terrified to ask for it.”
That pretending is actually pain.
How to deal with it?
Shift your focus from the limitations to the opportunities. And suddenly you’ll be able to see them.
That’s what I did.
If I can, you can too.
And remember to have a GUT time!
Yana
That was such a good point of view! Maybe we are too scared to even start thinking in the right direction. When I started my Substack month ago, I was thinking “I’m not sure if anyone is going to pay for my blog” but then I’ve realised that that’s how I stopped myself from achieving my goals. In reality, now I’ve got paid subscribers, and my mindset changed so much, same as my goal. The moral of the story: the change comes from your mindset.